Note to people having relationship troubles

I'm on fire tonight.  I wanna talk about relationships for a minute.  This is not directed toward women or men it is multi-gendered.  It may flip back and forth between funny and semi-serious.  I hear a lot of women say all they ever find to date or go out with are losers and I hear a lot of men, including myself, say that ever woman they have ever messed with is crazy.  So here is what I have come up with.  If you find yourself dating the same kind of person and having the same kind of relationship problems it can only be caused by two things.

1. There is something in you that is attracted to that type of person.  Now I will give some examples of what I mean.  If you say you like your significant other to have short hair, big tits, blue hair, down to earth, etc., then you have to be prepared to deal with the attitudes and characteristics that come with the majority of people that carry that physical trait that you are attracted to.  For instance, I seem to have an attraction for happy, funny girls and at the same time, I am attracted to that damsel in distress type of lady.  It's not that I need a project to work on or somebody that I can fix.  It is in a relationship I need to feel like the other person depends on me for certain things.  It all boils down to:  I need to feel needed.  So, I chose people, not because of what they need, but because of what I need.  Thus, women that need me are women that I am attracted to.  However, I am trying to get out of that because that is why I always end up with crazy women.  I am probably quoting this statistic wrong but I read somewhere that 95% of men that have a bad boy look and attitude are really just that BAD.  They are always in some kind of trouble with the law or they are abusive, etc....
2. There is something in you that attracts that kind of person.  This seems to be very similar to the first one but trust me they are very different.  If you end up with losers all the time, then there is something about you that draws that type of person to you.  Here is a perfect example:  my dad is a tall very skinny guy and always has been.  The majority of the women that are attracted to him make three of him.  I don't know why but he has always attracted big fat women.  Now he told me to come pick him up one time at a lady's house.  When I got there he was trying to get out the door really quick.  Me being the person I am pushed the door open to find a lady sitting in a chair that was pushing about trey fi seben (357).  Pounds that is, Chicken Grease, Corn oil, And Lots of Gravy.  So I go on in and start up a conversation with her, while my dad keeps giving me these go to hell looks.  We get in the car and I say WOW dad she was kinda big wasn't she.  He said fat women need love too.  I said well if that justifies it why were you trying to get out of the door so fast.  He said fat women are like mo-peds they fun to ride, but you don't want your friends to see you on them.  HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!  Now that is funny my friends.  But seriously, I do not know what it is about him that makes women of size attracted to him but they are.  I always thought it was because they were thinking once I'm through with him I can eat him. 

So if you are ending up with losers, fat women, abusers, drug addicts, crazy, lazy, or unmotivated dates its because they are attracted to something in you or because something in you is attracted to them.  Start dating people because you have taken the time to get to know them and because you genuinely like them.  Stop just running out here and grabbing the first thing that you are physically attracted to.  Proverbs 31:30 (paraphrased) - Popularity is deceitful, and beauty is fleeting:  but a person that fears God, shall be praised.
You end up with the wrong person because you are looking for the wrong things.  You can't find the right woman/man in the wrong woman/man.